face the fear



ready to face the fear

Above: Ronnh, our Multimedia Developer, about to bite the bullet and start work on his next big project.

I have struggled with perfectionism most of my life. Most people would think perfectionism a gift, but really it is more a curse. It was only until recently that I realized that it was holding me back from goals. An ambition to be a bestselling author, seemingly miles away, as I stare at my blank computer screen, choking on words that I keep second guessing.

My first step to overcoming this was getting real to it and acknowledging the problem. Where was my fear stemming from? What did it matter if something wasn't perfect? Thinking on this, I came to the source, a very common fear most people suffer – a fear of not being good enough. It can permeate all areas of our life with us not even being aware; health, personal, business.

A quote that really spoke to me was one said by Robert H. Schuller- "Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing perfectly". OMG! So it's better for me to write a crappy story than nothing at all? Of course! Becuase I can work on that story, I can develop that first draft into something grand and write that amazing novel I want. Whereas the alternative is nothingness: you can't work on something that isn't there. A light bulb went on for me there and set me free.

It took such a weight off me and allowed me the opportunity to start being true to myself and working towards those ultimate goals. Each day I face it, but I have that knowledge and hope that I will continue to overcome it. Live your life, don't hold back.

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Sounds like you need NaNoWriMo to help you achieve your famous novelist goals!

I highly recommend. This will be my third year participating in the fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants-write-a-novel-in-30-days extravaganza that begins on November 1st.

Talk about scary? Day 6 when you’re behind on your word count and you’ve already told the world that you’re going to write a novel in 30 days (even with Thanksgiving in the middle). But man, does it feel good when you’ve finished.

Check it out. It might just be the kick in the tail that you need to get started. Definitely buy the book No Plot, No Problem!. It’s the bible to 30-day noveling. If you buy it from that link you’ll get an autographed copy from Chris Baty himself. And if you decide to take the plunge, add me to your noveling buddies… I’ll help you along the way.

Comment by Whitney — August 20, 2009 @ 10:20 am


OMG WHITNEY!! :D

that is totally going on my goals!!
Bring on November 1st!!!!

I also read recently ‘Pen on Fire’, love it! Its all about taking those lil 10 min gaps of time you have and using them for writing. I try to write on my 10 min bus ride to work and found it works well.

Thanks so much hun! I’ll be adding you to my buddylist soon :D

~Let the writing begin~

Comment by Jenna — August 20, 2009 @ 5:11 pm


Hey Ronnh,

Big hi-five for sharing your goals online. The best advice I ever got was to lock myself in a silent room and not take the pen off the paper for 30 minutes…even if you just doodle swirly lines every thirty seconds. It works – trust me, from one recovering perfectionist to another. Can’t wait to pick up your book! :)

Comment by Elissa Joy — August 20, 2009 @ 6:13 pm


i love this!

Comment by Grace — August 22, 2009 @ 5:26 pm


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