getting out of a goals rut

Goals are the paving we lay down to follow to the life we truly want. But what happens when we have the path laid ahead, yet fail to move forward?

I recently found myself in this situation and was disheartened by the fact. Sitting down with my goal sheet in front of me, I set about re-evalutating each individual one in the effort to fire up my inspiration and continue to move forward. The following is the process I used to get out of my goal rut and rediscover the meaning each held for me and regaining my focus on my ideal vision of life.

Start by drawing out the goals that seem to continually be unfulfilled and analyze them.

• What was it about this goal that got you excited originally?
• Is it truly aligned with your current vision?
• What are the benefits or rewards for accomplishing it?

You never truly fail a goal till you give up on it completely -- an uplifting fact to keep in mind when you find yourself stuck.

This doesn’t include removing a goal because it is not aligned with you any longer, that isn’t a failure at all. It’s a great thing to be truly honest with yourself and be objective with your goals, rather than holding on to one for sentimental reasons. Cut out any goals that you no longer hold dear, or are for someone else other than you.

If you established from the above questions you still really want this goal, then keep at it!

• Change how you are going about it. Insanity is doing the same thing every time and expecting a different result. Create a new and different plan of attack.
• Write out a strategy. Make a list of every step you need to do to work towards. Pick one of the most vital and start. Do it now!
• Surround yourself with inspiration on a regular basis

Strategizing and writing out each step is a vital element to help your realize a goal. Breaking it down allows our brain to focus on each individual step, hone in on what really matters and overall makes the goal seem a lot more achievable in its more simple components.

For me, time after time “I own a dog” would go unfulfilled on my goals board as the ‘by whens’ kept slipping by. Although a short term and seemingly simple goal, I was always disappointed it went unaccomplished because for me, achieving it would rock my world! Yet, did I ever actually sit down and think about it? It was only till recently I made a plan, I researched and budgeted considering the long and short term.

Now I’m at the point where all the steps are covered besides having a dog friendly place to live. Although the goal passed by, the feeling of accomplishing all those other steps is great and I know I’ve tried and I’m one key step away from making it reality.

When the going gets tough, remember your inspiration and values. Focusing on these will help you center your energies on the positive and empowering. Have them be a part of your everyday life.

• Write out your top goal and have it somewhere you see everyday
• Draw on your mentors and idols for strength
• Write out your 5 most important values. When faced with a decision, ask yourself if it holds true to these values or not.
• Listen, read and watch inspiring stories and documents (I love listening to Brian Tracy’s CD the Philosophy of Happiness)
• Remember who you are doing this for. YOU.

At the end of the day when it comes down to it, what matters most to you is what’s important. Don’t stress yourself with other’s goals or comparing yours to others as this can hinder your energy and integrity to your own values.

One of the most powerful, yet simplest questions that was asked to me once wasL “How are you going to spend your time?”

Remember the choice is yours, how you live this life. Spend it wisely, doing what you love.

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I really enjoyed this post. As of tomorrow evening I will be unemployed — 6 months ago I began a job that has a taxing commute (85 miles one way…in Southern California!!) and has left me feeling a bit empty and unsatisfied. With my forthcoming free time, I am going to be taking a deep look inside, reflecting on what I really want to do/get out of this life! This post has some great tip and will help me along my route to discovery.

Comment by olivia — September 16, 2010 @ 10:51 am


Comment by Caroline — February 1, 2011 @ 6:17 pm

This is exactly what i needed. Thank you for this encouraging inspiration.

Comment by Ashlee — August 25, 2011 @ 12:04 pm

I have read this many times in the last few months, Saturday is Goals update/eval day and so I am here again. I will definitely be using some of your breakdown strategies to assess where I am at and where I am going. I recently had a huge personal revelation and it looks like my career will be changing, your focus on values has kept me from throwing away my old goals completely. Thanks a ton! Namaste! Keep moving forward!

Comment by Maxwell — November 30, 2011 @ 12:25 pm


Thank you for taking the time out of your day to write this blog. I woke up today tired and void of motivation. Reading this made me feel 100% better.
I appreciate you.



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